Refuge For Healing
online somatic practices for self-acceptance and self-love
feel at home in your body
I'm too fat. I'm too tall. I'm too loud. I'm too short. I'm too thin. I'm too big. I'm too invisible. I'm too slow. I'm too much. I'm too quiet. I'm too sexy. I'm too open. I'm too messy. I'm too closed off. I'm too weird.
I don't belong. I bore people. I'm not attractive enough. I make people uncomfortable. I'm not enough. I don't know what I'm doing. Everyone else has more talent/skill/knowledge than I do. I'll never succeed. I'm hopeless.
Do you fear that you will never find a place where you belong? Do you fear that you will live your whole life without finding the acceptance that you long for? Are you afraid that you will never reach your goals because imposter syndrome convinces you that you don't have what it takes?
Do you long to feel comfortable around other people and feel like you belong? Do you long to silence the voices in your head that keep reminding you of your shortcomings? Do you long to be fully accepted for who you are?
Maybe you've tried self-improvement through books, social media accounts, advice from friends. Maybe you've done therapy -- and I am a fan of therapy -- but it didn't quite do the trick. Maybe you've dieted or changed your look or done other things to try to gain acceptance. Maybe
you keep getting more credentials so that you can finally feel like you're competent to follow your dream, but none of those things have worked.
I offer something different.
I can guide you on a journey of learning how to love and accept yourself.
I know. I know. There's a lot of talk about self-acceptance and you may be
thinking, "If I could accept myself, wouldn't I have done that by now?"
But sometimes we need some help. Someone who's already been there can
offer the companionship and direction needed to start out well.
Or, you may be thinking that you already do accept yourself.
But I'd suggest that those relentless voices that tell you all the ways you fall
short are a sign that you deeply do not accept yourself.
I get it! I've got the voices, too! And every now and then they still like to throw
out a comment or two. The journey to self-acceptance is life-long. But I have
travelled far enough that I can confidently guide you on your own journey.
The thing is, when we learn how fully accept ourselves, the way we wish others would, we lose the need for
that same affirmation from others. We carry it inside ourselves. Sure, it's still great to have other people compliment us or affirm us, but we don't need it in the same way.
Our relationships become more genuine because we no longer have the deep agenda of trying to make people
like us. We no longer and deeply longing for them to fill something in us. We bring our whole selves to the relationship with confidence.
And when we fully love and accept ourselves, when we have confidence, when we've befriended our interior voices, then we also will begin to feel safer in our bodies. We may still have some work to do in regulating ourselves, but one layer of healing has begun!
Please check out the Journey to Self-Acceptance six-month membership
and other offerings.
Does This Sound Familiar?
You can't feel safe and at home in your body when you are your own bully.
This practice is:
Holistic - Takes the whole person into account. Body, mind, heart, spirit, as well as external parts of your being such as social factors.
Integrative - I draw from many different modalities for the techniques used. And the goal is for your body to integrate the techniques and healing, making them a part of your wholeness. I also don't claim to be able to solve all of your problems. Many clients may need to see other healthcare providers in addition to this work. I have a network of professionals I can refer clients to as needed. Having an integrated team is the best approach for some.
Somatic - This is Latin for "of the body." In this practice it refers to the way the body remembers and stores emotions and trauma (among other things) and the way those affect our physical health. For a simple example think about how some people get physically ill before giving a speech or performing before an audience. In that case the "illness" usually resolves quickly, but in other cases the physical symptoms can last years.
Disclaimer: You may have heard of Somatic Therapy. That is when somatic practices are used in a psychotherapy setting. I am not a therapist or counselor. I will not be offering psychotherapy.
Are Our Services for You?
You can benefit from our services if any of the following apply to you.
Trauma
Negative inner voice
Difficulty loving or accepting yourself
Trouble expressing your emotions.
Physical symptoms that won't go away.
Belong to a marginalized community.
Grieving any kind of loss.
Stress.
Looking for a safe space to process your emotions.
Want to get in touch with your body.
Deconstructing beliefs.
Religious trauma, or you have left a religion that formed your identity.
Your family/ancestors experienced trauma.
What to Expect
You will find a safe space where everything will be held in confidence within the confines of the law.
We will discover what problem you wish to address and then together we will create a plan that feels right for you. We may incorporate any of the following trauma-informed modalities to help you heal.
Somatic Practices: Trying different techniques that help move stuck emotions, stress, and trauma out of the body. This might include breathwork, energy work, meditation, visualization, movement, yoga, somatic touch, and more. This will be done in partnership with you so that you can choose the techniques that feel comfortable and appropriate to you.
Self-love coaching: We can't feel at home in our bodies when we are unkind to ourselves. You can learn how to accept, love, and appreciate yourself. We will work at changing critical thoughts to kind thoughts and teach the body that it is loved.
Creative Expression: We may draw circles and messy lines, or make a collage with pieces from a magazine. We may use markers or colored pencils to try to capture an idea or a feeling.
Grief Support: A refuge from your day-to-day where you can express grief and find support while processing through it.
Spiritual Direction: We can talk about your spirituality, whatever that may be, and how it can be part of your wellbeing.
LGBTQIA2+ Support: Discussing how your identity and orientation are feeling in your body in a culture that doesn't always feel safe.
About Kay
Through life's twists and turns Kay has come to understand how it feels when things don't go as expected. She can hold empathetic, trauma-informed space for others who are experiencing unexpected changes, whether joyful or difficult.
Her goal is to offer a place where everyone feels safe, seen, heard, and accepted.
Qualifications:
Bachelor of Science in Nursing
Certified Integrative Somatic Practitioner
LGBTQ+ Coach
Certificate in Spiritual Direction
Grief Coach
Self-love Coach
Artist
Writer
Pricing
There are never any hidden charges, and no contracts or obligations for Individual Appointments. You can meet with me as many times as feels beneficial.
Package pricing does anticipate that you will attend the number of sessions included in the package. There will be no refund for sessions dropped, but there is flexibility in scheduling should an emergency arise.
20 minute consultation - free
Individual Appointment via Zoom - $110 for 60 minute session
Package of 5 sessions - $522
Package of 10 sessions - $1,023
Groups - $20 per person
Workshops and Membership prices will vary.
I have a limited number of sliding scale appointment available. Contact me for information.
Go to the Online Self-acceptance Workshops Page for more information about our current membership program and to the Book Online Page to schedule for a one-on-one appointment or to register for the membership program.
I look forward to working with you to help you feel at home in your body!
